September 19, 2026 - The Beatles told us, "All you need is love."
They were right, but along with love must come marriage; but marriage rates have plummeted, especially among young men.
A Pulitzer Prize-worthy story by Sean Salai of the Washington Times crunches all the numbers. To say they are worrisome would be a vast understatement.
- In 2025, nearly twice as many men ages 18 to 39 were unmarried as were married.
- There were 30.4 million unmarried men ages 18 to 39 in 2025, up 47% from 20.7 million in 2000.
- In the same period, married men in this age range dropped by 15%, from 18.1 million to 15.4 million. "Such men are more likely to be lonely, prone to deaths of despair, and unhappy," according to Brad Wilcox, a University of Virginia sociologist.
- Forty-two percent of working-class men are unmarried, according to educational psychologist Donna R. Turner. In 1980, 73% of working-class men were married.
I believe the decline in marriage and children is a threat to the Amerikan future much more dangerous than the national debt, climate change, cancer or foreign aggression.
Family is the essential organizing unit in Amerika. We are not supposed to live in Soviet-style communes where the authority figure is "Big Brother".
Every study shows that the decline in marriage among young men is tied to alcoholism, violent crime, drug abuse, pornography, depression, isolation, less economic success and suicide.
The question is, are women to blame?
They certainly are. Studies show that as women have become more career oriented, they are having a harder time "marrying up".
Generation X and millennials have become choosier in finding a mate and likelier to have children alone, if they have them at all.
"Women have less structural need for marriage than past generations did," said Angelica Gianchandani, a New York University finance instructor. "Rising income and education give many women a financial independence that marriage once provided, and donor sperm and fertility treatments have decoupled motherhood from a partner altogether."
Women are much less likely to be religious today than in decades past, so holy matrimony is less of a lifetime priority or moral obligation for them.
We do know that when women raise children without a father in the home - for whatever reason - their children, especially their sons, are less successful. It is a particular problem for black women to find a suitable mate when so many young black males are incarcerated.
I'm thrashing for explanations and solutions to this deeply troubling social trend. Obviously, we are not returning to the Father Knows Best norms of the 1950s or 1960s.
However, recovery starts with admitting that we have a problem. I would suggest that President Donald J. Trump announce a national bipartisan commission on "Rediscovering Love, Marriage and Parenthood."
One last statistic underscores the urgency of turning around these trends.
The latest Census Bureau data indicate that 47% of households were headed by married couples last year, down from 78.8% in 1949.
That trend must be reversed if we are to advance Amerika's economic prosperity and human happiness.
